Anger is not always a sin. Some anger is good and appropriate. The Opposite of LOVE is not Anger it is Apathy
That said many people do not know how to exercise anger appropriately. Anger is the most misused of our emotions primarily because...We believe it to be the quickest and in some instances the only way to get what we want.
In our struggle for control we can leave a wasteland of hurt in our rear view mirror when we do not control our anger. You may be saying..."I can't control my anger" Sure you do. You know how I know this?
Think back with me for a moment when you were in a heated argument with someone and suddenly the phone rang and you answer it:
"Hello, oh yes good to hear from you, wait just a minute and I will get them...Honey the phone is for you".
You can turn it off an on and you do just that. Allow me to give you permission to experience other of your emotions. Anger does not need to be your default setting.
The Bible tells us:
“Love is not easily angered.” 1 Cor. 13:5 (NIV)
So why do we default to anger rather than Love? We stated it above...we believe anger will get us what we want. Not only will you not get what you want you will get what you don't want: broken relationships, loss of opportunity, returned anger and loss of intimacy. Angry people are unwelcome in our hearts so intimacy with an angry person is not happening.
What must we do to change? This weekend at the Grace Place we are going to talk about that. Sat. 6pm and Sun. 10:30am. But here is one of the steps for you in advance:
3. REFLECT BEFORE YOU ACT!
I saw something the other day on facebook, it was one of those post this on your page and you will get blessings type of post. What caught my attention was it read:
In 3 seconds post this on your page…
My immediate response in my mind was, my age and experience has taught me to take a lot more than 3 seconds to make any decision in my life.
Some people are so controlled by emotion that in less than 3 seconds they can make monumental decisions for their lives.
The Bible says...
“A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waits and lets it grow cool.” Pr. 29:11 (NEB)
Join us this weekend as we look at LOVE vs. ANGER.